This has been a week for loss and sad news. My precious daughter-in-love’s dear mom lost her battle with Parkinson’s and went to be with the Lord a few days ago. A precious Christian, Joan loved the Lord with all her heart. She went to sleep on this earth and woke up in Heaven. What a blessed way for a Christian to leave this life on earth! Please remember my son and Jeanine and their family as they make the long journey from Montana to East Tennessee to say goodbye. My heart goes with them…
My precious sister Gerry has now been in Heaven for three years. I have missed her more than words could say every single day. Her husband of 65+ years and the love of her life has missed her even more. He is lost without her. He is now in a coma with his children at his bedside…waiting to go home to be with the Lord and his beloved. He is a strong believer and has sung in the choir for many years. Just as I imagine my sister Gerry is cooking heavenly biscuits while she sings praises to the Lord, I imagine my brother by marriage will be singing in Heaven’s choir…and once again strumming his guitar.
Gerry and Sonny…at “the house on the hill” in the 1980’s. She would fuss at me for posting this pic since she is wearing her 80’s “big hair”! Nah, she’d probably just laugh with that wonderful laugh of hers!
My last year of nursing was spent as in Oncology, and on the walls of the unit there hung this beautiful poem below. This is how I imagine death and dying…and I have seen several leave this earth during my long nursing career. Hallelujah, our souls never die! Thank God, He has made provision for us to spend eternity with Him through His Son!
The Sailing Ship
What is dying?
I am standing on the seashore.
A ship sails to the morning breeze and starts for the ocean.
She is an object and I stand watching her
Till at last she fades from the horizon,
And someone at my side says, “She is gone!” Gone where?
Gone from my sight, that is all;
She is just as large in the masts, hull and spars as she was when I saw her,
And just as able to bear her load of living freight to its destination.
The diminished size and total loss of sight is in me, not in her;
And just at the moment when someone at my side says, “She is gone”,
There are others who are watching her coming,
And other voices take up a glad shout,
“There she comes” – and that is dying.
Bishop Charles Henry Brent (1862-1929)
UPDATE: Wednesday, October 22nd. Sonny passed away peacefully last night at 11:47 p.m. with his and Gerry’s family by his bedside. There may be sadness on earth, but there is rejoicing in Heaven as he joins my sister Gerry and the rest of those who have gone before. What a wonderful, blessed hope we have in Jesus!
If you’ve been reading my blogs for any length of time at all, then you know I’m Southern. I was born in the Delta of Mississippi and grew up in Memphis, Tennessee. My roots are there. I fell in love and got married there many years ago. My children were born there. I have a long list of family and friends there. And, yes, I still have a Southern accent…
It was the first day of October and a Wednesday I’d been looking forward to. I was flying home to the South. It had been three long years since I had flown into Memphis…and that had been on the sad occasion of my beloved sister Gerry’s funeral after she had lost her courageous battle with ALS. As the plane circled and descended into Memphis, I picked out a few familiar landmarks: the winding Mississippi River, the Memphis-Arkansas bridge, the “Pyramid” and LeBonheur Children’s Hospital. Soon the plane was landing.
Memphis skyline from the air. (Wikipedia)
Penny and Mike picked me up at the airport and we headed back to their home. They were headed south to Gulf Shores the following morning for a few days, so this gave us some time together until the following week. Penny fixed a delicious meal (including one of my favorites – Southern Fried Okra!) and we enjoyed time together before they drove me 45 minutes out to Sharon and Tommy’s home. I call Sharon “my baby niece” but she’s actually only two and a half years younger than I. She is my beloved late sister Dot’s only child. After the death of her father when she was four months old, we all lived together and Sharon and I grew up like sisters.
I had flown with painful “fluid behind my eardrums” diagnosed by my doctor on Monday and once I arrived in Memphis, it proceeded to get much worse. Unfortunately, I was sick! My long-time Memphis allergies had hit with a vengeance. Sadly, I missed my dinner with my dear friends from Lakeside Hospital where I had worked as a Registered Nurse with emotionally disturbed children for ten years. I hope to make it up to them in the Spring! Sharon took me to her doctor on Thursday where I got a shot and a CBC which verified it was allergies. I was a sick puppy nonetheless. The shot was a big boost and I felt much better the next day. Sharon and I made it to the luncheon at Grisanti’s with my high school friends I had not seen in so many years! It was wonderful to see everyone and, somehow, the years just melted away.
Below: My KHS buddy David and I. David is the youngest member of our graduating class and I am the next-to-the-youngest member! We had not seen each other for 51 years!! He is the same wonderful guy as always. He has a PhD and is a well-loved professor at a local university!
Below: Kathy is my best friend since the ninth-grade at KHS and I’m amazed to say that’s 55 years! She is as beautiful as ever! We see each other after any length of time and just pick right up where we left off. We had a “sleep-over” one night during my visit and her sweet husband patiently put up with us pretending we were sixteen all over again. We had the 60’s music playing in the background and reminiscing over days gone by. Before we knew it, it was 1:00 a.m.! Her sweet husband Bill treated us to a delicious dinner at Houston’s, a Memphis landmark for the past 31 years. I enjoyed meeting one of their three sons, a very handsome young man. I also introduced her and her sweet grandson and granddaughter to ancestry.com and we began a search for their family tree. Her grandchildren thought that was cool and will be a big help with it!
Below: I was so happy to see my cousin, Joy, and fellow KHS graduate at the luncheon as well (although she’s 6 years younger than I). You can tell by looking at us that we come from the same strong McGregor stock! Her grandmother was my father’s sister and one of my favorite aunts! We took one look at one another and marveled at how much we favored one another!
I loved my time with Sharon and Tommy. Sharon is a wonderful cook and made several terrific Southern meals – including delicious homemade meatloaf, her amazing mashed potatoes, Southern vegetables and hot cornbread. Another night she made delicious homemade chicken noodle soup and salad. I was getting a bit spoiled!
The following Tuesday, we headed to the “hills” of Mississippi for a visit with my precious sister Eunice and her dear husband Eddie. We had so much fun with them! They live on 5 beautiful, treed acres with a barn and a beautiful horse named Cherokee. Eddie is the “horse whisperer” and can make a horse do anything! Unfortunately, since his hip replacement, he can no longer ride but still enjoys Cherokee. Eunice is a great Southern cook and made a delicious dinner of pork chops, mashed potatoes, squash, green beans and hot cornbread. Sharon made the dessert which was one of my favorites – banana pudding. Another day, Eddie took us all out to dinner for another Southern feast. They have a wide front porch all the way across the front of their home and each morning would find us out there sitting in the rockers or porch swing, enjoying our coffee and visiting. Eddie recently turned 83 but doesn’t look a day over 70 and gets told all the time that he looks like George W. Bush!
While we were there, we all drove to Pontotoc, Mississippi, to visit the cemetery where my parents, grandparents and other ancestors are born. The old white church has been taken down but, other than that, it looks the same. I took photos of a lot of the tombstones to use with my family history research. After the Guinn Cemetery, we drove over to the Springville Cemetery where my maternal grandparents and other maternal ancestors are born. Again, I took photos for the family history book I intend to finish when I’m snowbound this Iowa winter!
Below: my beautiful sister Eunice at Guinn Cemetery. She is 11 years older than I am. We are the remaining two of the four McGregor daughters. I promised her I would be back in the Spring. We cannot wait so long to see each other again!
We left Pontotoc and headed for New Albany, Mississippi, where we visited their very neat town square…complete with several quaint antique shops and my favorite bakery: Sugaree’s! I can’t begin to describe how delicious everything they bake is! We bought one slice of their amazing white cake with homemade caramel frosting and two chocolate cupcakes to share four ways! I would love to have bought the whole caramel cake! They ship frozen by the way, so check it out. It’s unbelievable!
On Thursday afternoon, we said a sad goodbye to Eunice and Eddie and headed north to visit my niece Cindy. We ate dinner out together that night at McAlister’s (although I skipped my favorite sweet tea since it was so late!) and enjoyed our visit and laughter. Cindy teaches music history at the local college and could easily have been a concert pianist. She entertained us later with a few numbers which I loved. I videotaped it but I’m under strict instructions not to share it! But I will say she’s amazing!
Below: Cindy, Sharon and I attempted a “selfie” with my iPad (an iPad photo isn’t too flattering) but I think it turned out cute!
On Friday, we drove over to Greenwood, Mississippi, to eat lunch at the Crystal Grill. I had a Southern vegetable plate with cornbread muffins and a slice of their famous chocolate pie with mile-high-meringue! It was so good! After lunch, we trekked around downtown in the rain, enjoying the well-known Mississippi shops. I purchased a small pottery candle holder and a ceramic cross. Sharon bought me a beautiful robin egg blue/green ceramic soap dish which I love. (Thankfully, I made it home safely with everything!). That night, Cindy prepared a delicious tortilla chicken casserole, fresh green beans and salad. She had also made a wonderful apple spice cake!
Below: In the Delta of Mississippi, Greenwood is “the cotton capital of the world”. We saw field after field of beautiful snow-white cotton.
On Saturday, we said another sad goodbye and headed back to Memphis…to Penny and Mike’s home. We enjoyed hanging out together, having a delicious Southern dinner and watching a few favorite shows on television. Penny and I did some shopping the day before I flew back. I did manage to get it all in my suitcase and it wasn’t over the limit! On Wednesday morning, Mike and Penny drove me to the airport – in the midst of Memphis rush hour traffic – but we made it with time to spare.
It was a wonderful two weeks filled with lots of memories and I’m looking forward to returning in the early Spring!
When I was growing up, my older sisters (11, 15 and 18 years older) were playing the music of the fifties. I grew up listening to the sounds featured on the first “youtube” video below. My sisters were wonderful dancers. By the time I was ten and Sharon was eight, we could dance. I don’t know…maybe we had watched my sisters enough. I don’t remember that part. Neither Mama nor Daddy ever owned up to where (from which one of them) we all got the rhythm we had, but we could dance.
On the weekends, my sisters would occasionally go dancing. They would get all dressed up in the wonderful 1950’s fashions with high heels and go dancing with their boyfriend/husband/fiance. Sharon and I were, of course, much too young, so we’d get in the hallway of the house on Victor Drive with the polished hardwood floors, turn the music up and “bop” (the swing music or boogie-woogie today). I don’t remember Mama ever complaining that the music was too loud or that we were under foot. Most of the time, she and Daddy would be laughing at us. Eventually, we would get tired.
I was listening to some great fifties music this afternoon. Those mellow sounds of the wonderful saxophone of Ace Cannon were coming across the built-in speakers all throughout the house. I was dancing to Alley Cat as I cooked supper. I couldn’t help it. The memories were tumbling in and I was a very young teenager again…dancing in the hallway of a little house in Memphis.
Dianne 1963
Of course, the music of the sixties brings back a whole new “set” of memories: high school, college, falling in love, being a young newlywed and, later, having two small children fifteen and a half months apart. Amazing, isn’t it…?
This is a neat “youtube” video. If you remember this time, you’ll enjoy it.
If you don’t remember it, you should enjoy it anyway!
After all these years, this is still fun…
I don’t remember doing all the acrobatics (but some). I tried teaching my granddaughters in Montana a few of these steps and they thought it was fun! Of course, I must admit that I don’t remember being so out of breath in the sixties! 😉
Dancing with two of my granddaughters at my younger son’s wedding reception…October 2006.
From 2004 – 2010, my firstborn and his family lived in Peru. My son was a missionary doctor seeing patients in a clinic in the Andes Mountains of Peru. They enjoyed their work there in the rugged, beautiful mountains of the Incas. They lived among the Quechua people, coming to know and love them. My granddaughters were 4 and 2 years old when they left for Peru, so they grew up speaking Spanish fluently and playing with their young Quechua friends. While there, they were blessed to adopt their youngest daughter.
In 2008, I enjoyed spending three weeks in Peru. During my time there, I visited the historic city of Cusco, the Sacsayhuaman and other ancient ruins, trekked through amazing Machu Picchu and had an unforgettable visit with my son and his family.
The beautiful Andes Mountains…
The city of Cusco below…
While there, I also came to know and love two young people that I will forever consider grandchildren: Vladi and Evelyn. They are brother and sister and have one other sister whom I did not have the privilege of meeting. My son and his family met Vladi and Evelyn at their church and took these precious, young Christian people into their hearts and lives.
Vladi and Evelyn’s early lives had been difficult. I don’t know the whole story but I do know they had not had easy childhoods. My Spanish was limited and, at the time, they were just learning English, so we communicated the best we could. I think they knew, however, that this Grandmom loved them. Vladi lived with my son and his family and enrolled in dental college while they were in Peru. They have continued to support him in this endeavor. Vladi graduated from dental college a few weeks ago and is now in his internship in general dentistry. It would be great if he could come to the states after his internship to continue in a pediatric dentistry program which I believe he is considering.
Evelyn is enrolled in the university there, studying agriculture. She works part time in an internet cafe. Although the tuition is free, she has to purchase her school books and supplies. I know this has not been an easy journey for either of them, but I am proud of each of them for pursuing their dreams. I am proud of my son for his part in helping a young man to become a dentist there in Peru.
I haven’t seen Vladi and Evelyn for six years now, but this Grandmom would love to see them again! We keep in touch on Facebook and I pray for them each day and for the journey ahead of them.
Below: My sweet daughter-in-love Jeanine and Vladi in Peru earlier this year
when Jeanine flew down to translate for a mission group.
Above: I love this photo of Evelyn! She’s so beautiful. Here she had traveled by one of the small buses there to take a chicken to someone who needed it! Evelyn and I laughed together that she was traveling with a chicken but it needed to be done. She has such a heart of gold.
Below: Two beautiful granddaughters: Evelyn and Kate
Below: Vladi carrying Kate on one of our treks through the ruins…2008
Below: A recent photo of Vladi (far right), who excels in soccer, and his teammates.
Below: Congratulations to Vladi for having finished dental college.
He is now in his internship in general dentistry. Way to go, Vladi!
A few more photos from my visit to Peru in 2008…
Downtown Cusco, Peru…2008One of the fresh air markets in Cusco…2008Taking a break after trekking down into the ruins and realizing I was so out of shape! 2008I think these were the ruins we had hiked down into. EACH step was about 18″ tall it seemed!
After several days of rain and cloudy skies, the sun is out and the weather is beautiful! I love looking out the windows in their home here and seeing mountains so close!
Yesterday, we had a wonderful morning worship service at their church which I really liked! There was a small orchestra with two violins, a couple of guitars, drums (that were NOT too loud!) and a couple of instruments that I do not recall. We sang several different songs which I enjoyed. The songs included two of my favorites: The Lion of Judah by Robin Mark and the hymn Holy, Holy, Holy. Needless to say, after growing up in a Baptist church in the South, I knew every single word of the hymn – all verses. Hymns bring such joy and peace and I wish we would sing them in our church. One thing I also noticed was that the music was not too loud and I could hear myself sing and everyone around me singing I loved that.
After church, we headed to Livingston, Montana, and had lunch in a very “Western” restaurant. The food was delicious and the scenery perfect. I remarked to my son that it was the perfect setting for a movie and he responded that there have already been several set in this part of the country.
After lunch, we traveled up the mountain range climbing closer and closer to the snow peaked mountains tops. We parked at the trailhead and I have no doubt that they will be back to climb the trail!
Last night, we celebrated my firstborn’s birthday with homemade broccoli cheese soup and a delicious chocolate cake with mocha filling and chocolate frosting. All homemade, of course, and fabulous. He liked all of this presents – mostly mountain biking clothes and trout fishing gear.
Today, we headed to downtown Bozeman in the warm sunshine. Not too crowded at all which, apparently, is a bit of a change. First, we went shopping in several of the neat shops on Main Street. I found a Montana long-sleeved t-shirt, a Montana ball cap and a few other goodies. Also purchased some Huckleberry Chai Tea which we will enjoy this afternoon. Then we ate lunch at the Nova Cafe where the food was delicious. While we were walking down Main Street, there was a young couple with a nine-week-old French Bulldog on a leash. I fell in love! He was so adorable!
For supper tonight, Jeanine is making her wonderful homemade chili and I will make the cornbread! This trip has been so much fun and I can’t believe tomorrow will be my last full day here. Don’t worry, Yellowstone, I will be back to visit you!
I left Des Moines yesterday morning in a FIERCE Midwest storm – the likes of which I haven’t seen for a while. I couldn’t find my umbrella, so by the time I had the luggage loaded into the back of my friend Susan’s car (who had kindly offered to drive me to the airport), I looked like I had just stepped out of the shower. Not to worry though, I dried. Once the plane got up above the clouds and past a few major bumps, it was sunny and smoother flying. Once we arrived closer to Bozeman, I looked out the window to see a mountaintop so close, I could almost touch it! The scenery here is magnificent. Definitely different from Oregon but amazing. I can see why they call this “Big Sky Country”! The sky stretched as far as the eye could see over the mountains. I was so happy to see my oldest and his precious family! The girls have grown so much and are, of course, beautiful! They love it here and it suits their outdoor, hiking, camping, mountain biking lifestyle beautifully. Later in the week, we will head to Yellowstone and I will take some pics there. In the meantime, enjoy a few of their Montana living pics below!
